Some ideas on how to illuminate the parts of ourselves we don’t see very clearly:
~Reflect on past behaviors: is there a pattern to the moments of discomfort?
~Go from furious to curious: what brought on the furious?
~Ask someone for their insights: a different perspective can change so much.
~Learn to pay attention to feelings of discomfort: notice what thoughts come up when difficult feelings come alive within you.
~Breath: bring your attention to your breath over and over again; notice what thoughts come up when you bring your attention to your breath; is there a judgement? an inner critic? a gentle voice?